Short answer: Sadly yes, many dating sites themselves can be a scam! It just so happens that some are way worse than others.
Let me expand on this and give you some solid well-researched examples.
DO NOT trust the independent dating review sites either because most of them are in bed with these criminals as profiting affiliates.
Check out Consumer Reports (Are Paid Dating Sites Better Than Free Ones?) if you’re looking for unbiased advice.
Dating sites used to be a more reliable way for well-meaning singles to meet someone special. Not any more folks. It’s bad enough you have to watch out for other members trying to scam you.
Now, you can’t even trust the company running the dating site. They may even be worse because they intentionally feed off of your loneliness and users mistakenly trust them more. I never expected the dating sites themselves to be in on the con, but quickly found out I was wrong the hard way.
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After some thorough online research, I found the following common traits that should set off red flags in your head. Run, don’t look back, and put your money away! You do not want to waste your time or money being duped by dating sites that have these scam features.
If the site you’re considering only allows you to purchase credits to participate, you’re getting ripped off. Not only are these credits way more expensive than a membership anywhere else, but they also won’t last you very long. The cheapest you can buy credits in most cases will be 20 cents per credit. Guess what you can do with a single credit? That’s right boys or girls, nothing. And since they know you probably don’t pay attention to every action you take, they’re counting on you to “top-up” without knowing about it. Dating site reviewers fail to mention how fast you can go broke patronizing a site that uses this credit model.
As if buying credits wasn’t bad enough, spending them is way worse.
I went ahead and priced each action from this dating site to give you an idea of just how utterly expensive things can get…and very fast. Here’s the thing too…they obfuscate and hide the pricing model very well. You need Sherlock Holmes sleuthing abilities to find this on their sites.
The moral of the story is that if you come across a dating site that wants to sell you credits, don’t do it. You’ll be homeless before you can spend enough money to actually meet a real human being that’s genuine. And I don’t care how gorgeous you are, I’m not spending $600 just so I can get your phone number.
Have you ever been on a dating site and get a ridiculous amount of attention? You’re no Brad Pitt or Richard Gere, so what gives?
Your worst fears are about to be realized. They were never interested in you…none of them. Someone is being incentivized to provide you with this experience. The more you contact their referrals, the more money they make.
It’s how they hook you and keep you spending more money. Don’t be duped by these con artists.
If you see warning messages like these, drop everything and abandon ship! It’s a dating site scam!
The humorous thing about the “Risks Notice” link on their page (above image) was that it was broken. You click on it and goes to an empty 404 page. They apparently don’t want you to be informed of the risks since they’re the ones perpetuating it.
A brief explanation: All the provider needs to do is get a valid ID from someone and then impersonate them going forward. You’ll be none the wiser and the dating site can claim that they validate their members. They don’t expect you to catch on to the conflict of interest either. You have to hover over the Validated Member button to see the message in the image below.
When I searched their listings, I wasn’t surprised when I found that ALL of the profiles were marked as “validated”.
I tested my theory that the profiles were bogus by leaving questions (and a “READ IF YOU WANT ME TO RESPOND!”) in my profile to see if the members would answer or even mention it. I even uploaded my main profile image with text that said “Email Me Please!!!” with my actual email address on it.
After receiving over 100 “letters” and thousands of chat messages to date…
Guess how many responses either read the profile or emailed me? ZERO
This definitely got my spider senses tingling and looking to expose these phonies.
Normally when you sign up for a dating site, they ask you for your gender and what your dating interests (sex orientation) are.
Not this site. They just assume you are a man looking for a woman. There was no way to register online as a female (or any other gender for that matter) or gay.
When I contacted support about this, they gave me a contact email address for their “Head of Agencies Relations” that was from another domain. That sounded very shady to me.
I’m still waiting to hear back from this individual. Seems they have enough “validated” profiles already.
I like to think I’m somewhat handsome and well put together, but not enough to merit anything as aggressive as members from this dating site. For instance, if the ladies on the dating site you patron do any of the following, you know it’s a hoax. Every single one of these listed happened to me on this dating site.
Be very wary of anyone that does any of the following:
If you get attention from 100s of profiles and you’re not famous or a supermodel, ponder that for a minute. Are women begging for your attention where you live? I’m guessing that they probably aren’t, so that should tell you something. These types of dating sites are looking for thirsty men who are looking to have their egos stroked.
Don’t fall for it!
This should be the first question to ask before even considering to use a dating site. I made the odious mistake of not doing this first. Had I done so, I would have quickly realized that this dating site was highly questionable at best. It would have saved me the disappointment and time wasted fighting to get my money back.
Here are some tools and methods that will help you do your due diligence.
If you come across a dating site that interests you, please check the following before you proceed.
Trustworthy dating websites will have a positive history and track record that can be researched easily.
Reading customer reviews for a dating site can be very revealing. I found some even more disturbing information that was overlooked before. One member claims that support accidentally mentioned that their site used bots to respond to chats. I guess that explains why a lot of the messages repeat in style and message.
Another customer review mentioned the expense of credits as we noticed above. This poor gentleman even noticed some duplication in the ladies’ profiles. He discusses the futility in trying to make a real connection and doubts the authenticity of the lady members.
Less popular dating sites that haven’t established a good reputation will rarely have any positive reviews.
SiteJabber ranks sites by only considering customer reviews. If the dating site you want to use isn’t on their site or is missing reviews, be very cautious.
The dating site that scammed me hasn’t been reviewed on SiteJabber yet.
Even the more popular sites have numerous negative reviews about scammer profiles. Pay special attention to those, so you know what precautions to take.
Before you decide to use a dating site, do yourself a favor and listen to your inner voice. If something seems to be good to be true, it normally is.
Ask your friends and other daters for their experience with dating sites. If they’ve never heard of the site, that should tell you something.
Finally, bookmark this page and use the tools we mention above. Please do your research! You don’t want to fall victim to a dating site scam.
Feel free to Contact Us if you have questions, comments, or need help. I love exposing these scumbags!
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